The term 'friend' is banded around now-a-days with relative ease and seems to apply to all meaning of catagories..its just become the default setting. And in this default setting, one seems willing to accept lower standards of behaviour from those people called ‘friends’


Reliabilty, Respect, Support, Honesty and Trustworthiness…these are all qualities I consider prerequisite for a true friend. Earlier this year, I learnt a hard truth about who my friends are..and the answers I got back were in many cases not what I was expecting. Harsh disappointment  and disbelief at the wolves in sheeps clothing and total surprise and immense gratitude at those who showed up completely unannounced.

And yet I stuggle to know what to do with these ‘friends’, particularly when they are in need.
I have an large ability and desire to care for people..Good thing too otherwise I'll make a lousy doctor..but when it come to these ‘friends’, these ‘friends’ who when their lives are falling apart cling SO hard and when things are all peaches and cream replace you faster than a broken light bulb. These friends who totally fail to appreciate you and all you do for them.. ..its hard to hear what God wants..Do you want me to help him through this, or am I squandering my gift on someone who has no appreciation for it..would it be better utilised in helping people who do?


Recently for me this is never more applicable than to a ex…Which leaves me asking the question..Can an ex ever really be a friend? And when the rose tinted glasses finally come off and you stop assigning excuses for all the awful deeds he did, when you finally hold him to the high(est) standards that being a true friends involves..Is there any point in trying?